The Evans Four

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Five years well-lived August 5, 2013

Filed under: babies,celebration,family,Uncategorized — aarontori @ 9:05 PM
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Five years ago, Aaron and I were making our last-minute preparations for our wedding. I was quitting my job (very unexpectedly) and Aaron’s summer position was coming to an end. We were moving his things into my/our tiny converted-garage apartment. We were also about to begin our senior years of undergraduate study. Life was crazy and busy, but also so incredibly care-free (other than that whole newlyweds-and-jobless business, but it was barely a blip on our worry radar). We were married on an absolutely scorching day in August. The high was 103 and I was so terrified that my professional (read: expensive) makeup was going to melt. I finally got around to putting our wedding pictures into an album this past spring. Elizabeth really loves to look through the photos and so I look at them frequently with her. In our pictures we look SO young, especially Aaron. Without his man-beard (that I adore), he looks all of 14 years old πŸ˜› It was a blur of excitement and preparation right up until my dad walked me down the aisle. My dad just barely made it in time, we forgot to ask our friends to hand out the programs, and my maid of honor nearly forgot Aaron’s ring in the dressing room. I honestly don’t remember the exact moment of walking down the aisle. I have a video and a photo of it, but I can’t see it in my mind. It is all such a blur now. The things I remember most about the ceremony are:

  • the preacher had some sort of accident the day before and had a small cut on his head and seemed a little bit “off”
  • little Nathan (our ring bearer) dropping the ring pillow repeatedly
  • trying not to cry during my vows
  • not “the kiss”, but the one after we walked out the doors into the foyer; the one that was just for us

Our reception was wonderful. I so much enjoyed walking between the tables, meeting my new family members, and introducing Aaron to his new family. It was really wonderful and at the end of the night when we got to our beautiful honeymoon cottage we were dead tired. Part of the wedding night package was an 8×10 photo of us when we arrived. I tore it up because we both looked terrible. It is hard to believe we’ve been married 5 years. On one hand it feels like we’ve been together so much longer and we’ve experienced so much that it must be at least 10. On the other hand I still sometimes feel as though we can’t possibly be 26 yet. How did we get here and where did the time go? We’ve managed to live our lives to the absolute fullest extent and even to bursting these last five years. Here are some of the most memorable moments (some are highlights and others not-so-much):

  • Finishing college/graduation (being newlyweds in college was nearly unheard of at TCU, but at UNT I was in good company)
  • Our “honeymoon summer” (driving around the country and bumming with friends and family during our month-long limbo between college and Camphill)
  • Moving to Pennsylvania and Camphill Soltane (this was an incredible experience that was both trying and fulfilling)
  • The moment we agreed that it was time to grow our family (I still have the note written in black crayon on a Friendly’s napkin)
  • Hearing Elizabeth’s heartbeat for the first time
  • Being terrified that we were losing our baby at 11 weeks and then another scare at 30 weeks that I’d be forced to have a c-section
  • Coming back home to Texas (homeless, jobless, and very pregnant)
  • An answer to prayer: a home and wonderful jobs caring for the elementary girls at Happy Hill Farm/NCTA
  • The wonderful birth of Elizabeth Joy Evans (September 2010)
  • My mom coming to live with us (April 2011-February 2012)
  • Paying off the Versa; our car (a very proud moment for me)
  • Baby Dos on the way (July 2011)
  • Leaving HHFA and starting work at ACI while Aaron and Elizabeth enjoy being at home together (October 2011)
  • Another answer to prayer: an Apartment Life placement (February 2012)
  • The even more amazing birth of Owen Cody Evans (April 2012)
  • Loss of our apartment life placement and back to HHFA/NCTA (August 2012)
  • Caring for 4-6 spirited, but mostly wonderful junior high boys
  • Leaving NCTA once more (June 2013)
  • The Versa turning over 100,000 miles (a very proud moment for Aaron)
  • Watching our second baby grow into a toddler and our first into a preschooler

The last five years have been rather nomadic and slightly chaotic. We’ve constantly stepped out in faith and been so incredibly blessed. We’ve made amazing friends, learned hard lessons, and grown even closer together. We have worked side-by-side together for most of our married life, something that not many married couples could ever imagine doing gracefully, but we relished it. Aaron is my best friend, the same as it was back in 2006 when we began dating, the same as it was in 2008 when we were married. He is a wonderful, steadfast, and loving husband. It has been the greatest joy and pleasure of my life to watch him become a father. He is so wonderful with Elizabeth and Owen. He’s taught Elizabeth all about photosynthesis. She can pronounce it and explain it to you (with hand motions and everything)! Owen adores his Dada and for a frustratingly long time referred to me as Dada too πŸ™‚

Sometimes people are surprised that we are married with two kids at only 26. They ask why we got married so young; are shocked that we are not only happy about having kids already, but that we actually had them on purpose; and they wonder if we have regrets. Sure we still rent and have student loan debt. No, we aren’t well-off financially, and we may not have as much “freedom” as others our age , but the last five years have been more full of love and happiness than the preceding 21 years of my life combined and I have absolutely no regrets.

Happy anniversary, Aaron. You’re the love of my life and I can’t wait to see what God has in store for us as we grow old together.


One Response to “Five years well-lived”

  1. Aaron Says:

    I’d “like this” if I could, but I can’t unless I make another account. I love you too πŸ™‚ Wonderful memories and plenty of room for many more pages worth.

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