The Evans Four

blogging about our life as a family

Ahem. April 17, 2014

Filed under: babies,celebration,family,pregnancy — aarontori @ 12:07 AM
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Well, we’ll have to change the name of the blog again…

 

 

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Five years well-lived August 5, 2013

Filed under: babies,celebration,family,Uncategorized — aarontori @ 9:05 PM
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Five years ago, Aaron and I were making our last-minute preparations for our wedding. I was quitting my job (very unexpectedly) and Aaron’s summer position was coming to an end. We were moving his things into my/our tiny converted-garage apartment. We were also about to begin our senior years of undergraduate study. Life was crazy and busy, but also so incredibly care-free (other than that whole newlyweds-and-jobless business, but it was barely a blip on our worry radar). We were married on an absolutely scorching day in August. The high was 103 and I was so terrified that my professional (read: expensive) makeup was going to melt. I finally got around to putting our wedding pictures into an album this past spring. Elizabeth really loves to look through the photos and so I look at them frequently with her. In our pictures we look SO young, especially Aaron. Without his man-beard (that I adore), he looks all of 14 years old 😛 It was a blur of excitement and preparation right up until my dad walked me down the aisle. My dad just barely made it in time, we forgot to ask our friends to hand out the programs, and my maid of honor nearly forgot Aaron’s ring in the dressing room. I honestly don’t remember the exact moment of walking down the aisle. I have a video and a photo of it, but I can’t see it in my mind. It is all such a blur now. The things I remember most about the ceremony are:

  • the preacher had some sort of accident the day before and had a small cut on his head and seemed a little bit “off”
  • little Nathan (our ring bearer) dropping the ring pillow repeatedly
  • trying not to cry during my vows
  • not “the kiss”, but the one after we walked out the doors into the foyer; the one that was just for us

Our reception was wonderful. I so much enjoyed walking between the tables, meeting my new family members, and introducing Aaron to his new family. It was really wonderful and at the end of the night when we got to our beautiful honeymoon cottage we were dead tired. Part of the wedding night package was an 8×10 photo of us when we arrived. I tore it up because we both looked terrible. It is hard to believe we’ve been married 5 years. On one hand it feels like we’ve been together so much longer and we’ve experienced so much that it must be at least 10. On the other hand I still sometimes feel as though we can’t possibly be 26 yet. How did we get here and where did the time go? We’ve managed to live our lives to the absolute fullest extent and even to bursting these last five years. Here are some of the most memorable moments (some are highlights and others not-so-much):

  • Finishing college/graduation (being newlyweds in college was nearly unheard of at TCU, but at UNT I was in good company)
  • Our “honeymoon summer” (driving around the country and bumming with friends and family during our month-long limbo between college and Camphill)
  • Moving to Pennsylvania and Camphill Soltane (this was an incredible experience that was both trying and fulfilling)
  • The moment we agreed that it was time to grow our family (I still have the note written in black crayon on a Friendly’s napkin)
  • Hearing Elizabeth’s heartbeat for the first time
  • Being terrified that we were losing our baby at 11 weeks and then another scare at 30 weeks that I’d be forced to have a c-section
  • Coming back home to Texas (homeless, jobless, and very pregnant)
  • An answer to prayer: a home and wonderful jobs caring for the elementary girls at Happy Hill Farm/NCTA
  • The wonderful birth of Elizabeth Joy Evans (September 2010)
  • My mom coming to live with us (April 2011-February 2012)
  • Paying off the Versa; our car (a very proud moment for me)
  • Baby Dos on the way (July 2011)
  • Leaving HHFA and starting work at ACI while Aaron and Elizabeth enjoy being at home together (October 2011)
  • Another answer to prayer: an Apartment Life placement (February 2012)
  • The even more amazing birth of Owen Cody Evans (April 2012)
  • Loss of our apartment life placement and back to HHFA/NCTA (August 2012)
  • Caring for 4-6 spirited, but mostly wonderful junior high boys
  • Leaving NCTA once more (June 2013)
  • The Versa turning over 100,000 miles (a very proud moment for Aaron)
  • Watching our second baby grow into a toddler and our first into a preschooler

The last five years have been rather nomadic and slightly chaotic. We’ve constantly stepped out in faith and been so incredibly blessed. We’ve made amazing friends, learned hard lessons, and grown even closer together. We have worked side-by-side together for most of our married life, something that not many married couples could ever imagine doing gracefully, but we relished it. Aaron is my best friend, the same as it was back in 2006 when we began dating, the same as it was in 2008 when we were married. He is a wonderful, steadfast, and loving husband. It has been the greatest joy and pleasure of my life to watch him become a father. He is so wonderful with Elizabeth and Owen. He’s taught Elizabeth all about photosynthesis. She can pronounce it and explain it to you (with hand motions and everything)! Owen adores his Dada and for a frustratingly long time referred to me as Dada too 🙂

Sometimes people are surprised that we are married with two kids at only 26. They ask why we got married so young; are shocked that we are not only happy about having kids already, but that we actually had them on purpose; and they wonder if we have regrets. Sure we still rent and have student loan debt. No, we aren’t well-off financially, and we may not have as much “freedom” as others our age , but the last five years have been more full of love and happiness than the preceding 21 years of my life combined and I have absolutely no regrets.

Happy anniversary, Aaron. You’re the love of my life and I can’t wait to see what God has in store for us as we grow old together.

 

The Annual Christmas Update December 17, 2012

Filed under: babies,christmas,EJ,family,holidays,moving,Owen,work — aarontori @ 3:00 PM

We always seem to have so much to say when we do these posts, so I’ll go ahead and get started on the incredibly long update 🙂

Work:

We are working back at Happy Hill Farm, which has been renamed to North Central Texas Academy at Happy Hill Farm, but it’s NCTA for short. We came out to visit my mom for the 4th of July holiday, (Sidenote: Mom moved back out to Glen Rose and her job at the nursing home when we moved into our CARES apartment back in February. It was a good move for all parties involved and we’re all happier in our current places) and while we were out here, we stopped by to see our friends here at the farm. There were lots of changes going on and we were excited about some of them and intrigued about others. Elizabeth had a great time seeing the kids and our friends and I was feeling very guilty about how Owen wasn’t going to have the same great experience that his sister did. Since my mom was no longer living with us, it was a possibility for us to consider coming back to the school and working with the kids again. On our drive home we were discussing it and decided that since we had our two year agreement with Apartment Life to fulfill, we would revisit the idea of becoming house parents again once our two year end date was closer.

Well, we got back home and just a few short days later, we got a call from our Apartment Life supervisor stating that the new management company at our apartment complex had called and said that the CARES program was against their company policy, since their employees are supposed to be in charge of planning all events and resident retention. They were giving us 60 days to find either a new apartment or a new CARES team placement. We immediately thought that it was sign that we should reapply with Happy Hill. I was a complete and nervous wreck. I really loved my job at ACI; those kids are so precious to me, my coworkers had become my friends, and I just absolutely love the challenge of that work. However, it was taking a toll on me to be away from my sweet family for 10 hours a day. I left before they got up most days and came back just in time to eat dinner with Elizabeth and put her to bed. The commute was just way too much and Aaron basically got no time with me since I was so tired and he just wanted to unwind by playing some Minecraft at the end of the day.

We prayed about it constantly for about 2 weeks. I called my closest friends and my wonderful mentor, Christy. She of course gave me great advice and we submitted a written request to the farm to return to our work as house parents. We were on edge for a few days while we waited on an answer. We finally got it, and they said that there was a position for us. I immediately had a rush of relief and felt like a burden was lifted off me. This was the choice we were supposed to make and this is where we needed to be. Telling my coworkers and the families of my kiddos was tough, but they were all so very sweet and understanding.

We packed up again and with the help of our awesome friends, we moved for the 3rd time in 10 months. This time we moved into the Junior High boys’ house. We have 5 boys; one is in 7th grade and the rest are in 8th, one of whom is from China. There are a lot of things that are different being in a boys house, but most of them are good. One thing we do miss is the elementary 9:00 bedtime 🙂 Our guys are very different from one another and interact with us and the kids in unique ways. They have all grown very fond of Elizabeth and Owen, and the feeling is mutual. Elizabeth absolutely adores the 7th grader. He is always very sweet to both Elizabeth and Owen. They have their moments, but overall they’re good kids and we enjoy them. Aaron is especially liking the fact that he can be more involved and that they like video games so much. We are in the midst of hosting a big Madden football league season with them. The two single guys that work in here on our days off are also playing and they’re all really enjoying it. It’s really sweet to see Aaron practicing and trying to create a strategy when he knows he’s playing one of the boys who are really good. The boys are about to start their semester finals tomorrow. I was helping two of them study for their English exam tonight. It’s good that we can tag team pretty much any of the stuff the guys need whereas with the girls, there was a lot that Aaron couldn’t help them with. We are having our Christmas party with them this Thursday before they go home for the break and I’m looking forward to it.

Kids:

Elizabeth has grown so very much. She’s so smart and can carry on the sweetest conversation. She likes to count and can go all the way to 16. 17-20 get a bit muddled, but she tries. She knows her ABCs, but only in song. We’re working on being able to recognize the letters. She definitely has E for Elizabeth and O for Owen down though. She went through a little spell there right as she was turning two, where she was throwing monstrous tantrums, but thankfully it passed after just a few weeks. She got a big girl bed for her birthday from Aaron’s parents and does an awesome job sleeping in it. She gave her pacis to the paci fairy once she turned two and got a leapfrog tag reader as her surprise big girl gift. She also started preschool two days a week back in August. She goes to a local church’s preschool program 8:30-12:45. Their program is actually 9:30-2:30, but she just couldn’t/wouldn’t nap there so we decided to do the early-bird drop off and just pick her up after their lunchtime before they lay down for their naps. She has been doing much better about naptime at home though and so after the new year, we’re going to try and do regular full days again. Elizabeth is a ballerina and will show you her sweet ballet dance moves if you ask nicely. She loves to sing and dance and her favorite song at the moment is Zaccheus Was a Wee Little Man… It’s so fun to have her sing along with me. She is a good big sister, even if she can be a little rough with Owen. He’s pretty sturdy for a little guy and can dish it out too (most often in the form of pulling sister’s hair).

Owen is fun. He is a ball of energy, always on the go. He is trying hard to start walking already and once he figures that out we are in some serious trouble. I can see him being a climber too, so I’m just preparing myself for lots of worrying/bruise-kissing in the near future. He is in a very mama’s-boy clingy phase, but it’s mostly due to teething pain. He has his bottom two front teeth and one of his top front teeth broke through the gum just today. He is quite tall and skinny, so his onesies are either too big everywhere or a bit snug in length. He loves his big sister and screeches happily anytime she’s near. He also likes to watch The Fresh Beat Band with her. It’s pretty cute to watch them both enthralled by the computer (they watch it on Netflix).

Us:

Aaron and I are really enjoying being back here on the farm. We have weekly Men’s/Women’s Bible study which we’re enjoying having with our coworkers. We are also enjoying having more time to spend together as a couple as well as family time. We’re trying to find something to do together that we both really enjoy that isn’t work/parenting related, but it’s a little tough with two little ones. Mostly we just hang out after all the kids are asleep, sometimes watch a movie on Netflix, and try to enjoy our days off.

Tori:

I am loving that there are so many other moms here with little ones. There were quite a few here before too, but we never got together. Now, a teacher’s wife has started a playgroup on Wednesdays. The kids and I go and they play while we have grownup conversation and lunch all together. It’s really wonderful, and some of us even get together regularly to work out three days a week. I only go twice since Elizabeth goes to preschool on Tuesdays. I take that as my chill out day and Thursday I go to women’s Bible study.

Aaron:

I am enjoying still being a stay-at-home dad but with the added bonus of having my wife around too 🙂 Getting to stay home with the kids when Tori was at work was great, but I could see it was hard on her to be away from us all day, and when she got home we pretty much were both exhausted. Now we are working at finding something we can enjoy together. We’re trying to cook more, seeing as working at NCTA means we eat in the dining center for most meals and we just don’t cook as much anymore. We’re hoping this can be an activity we can share, but usually one of us just ends up taking care of the kids. I’m very happy to be in the middle school boys house. There is just so much more they can do and that I can do with them. They have their challenges, but for the most part I can’t complain 🙂 I’m looking forward to the upcoming break though, and having time that we don’t have any real work responsibilities so we can just relax with our family.

Well, that’s the end of our blog catch-up. Merry Christmas to everyone!

Aaron, Tori, Elizabeth, and Owen

 

Introducing: Owen Cody Evans (better late than never, I suppose…) December 16, 2012

Filed under: babies,EJ,family,Owen,pictures — aarontori @ 1:38 AM
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Hard to believe that I have been this terrible about updating, but here we are 8 months later, and I still haven’t posted about the birth of our son. Oh well, life happens and so here is an update on him and his arrival.

Owen Cody arrived on Good Friday, April 6th. I started having contractions at about 4:30 in the morning and was able to go back to sleep until 6. Then we got up and started our day, fed Elizabeth, and then about 8 we dropped her off at the home of our good friends to have a play date while we headed to the birth center. Aaron’s parents drove up from Houston and picked Elizabeth up so she could be the first to meet her brother. He was born at 2:03 while his sister played in the grass and dirt outside of the birth center. I had a water birth and caught him myself. It was amazing and I fell instantly in love with my sweet boy. He was 7 lbs. 14 oz. and just shy of 21 inches long (almost 2 lbs heavier than his sister).

Here is his first picture

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He had a little birthmark on his cheek, but it went away after a couple days.

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Here he is getting his first kiss from his big sister, Elizabeth!

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Owen has since grown very tall, but is rather lanky, especially for a baby. He’s incredibly active and at 8 months he is already crawling, pulling up to a stand, letting go to stand unassisted, and is cruising around from object to object. I’m afraid he’ll be walking sometime in the next month or so. It’s terribly nerve wracking, because I worry so much about him falling. He has his two center bottom teeth, his front top right tooth is just about to break through the gums, and he and chews/drools on everything.

Owen is in constant motion. He must be involved in whatever is going on at all times. He is very hands on in his exploration, never satisfied to just look at something, but wants to hold it/touch it/eat it. This has led to many a fit as he is not nearly as easy to distract as you might think a baby would be.

His favorite person in the world is probably his big sister. Everything she does is funny to him; everything. She can make him smile and laugh like no one else can. I think part of the reason he is so physically advanced for his age is because he wants to be with Elizabeth, running around the house just like her.

He has gorgeous, big eyes just like his daddy, except they’re blue instead of brown. His hair is an almost white blonde and he’s got quite a bit, but you can hardly see it because it is so light.

When we go to hang out with our baby friends at playgroup on Wednesdays, Owen has to be kept separate from the other babies because he’s too aggressive with his friends and makes them cry. Elizabeth did the same thing, so maybe it’s mine and Aaron’s fault.

Owen will say “Da-da”, the very rare “ah-ma”, and when he gets to babbling you might hear “Da-deeee”. Mostly though, it’s a whole lot of excited screeching.

On the whole he is an incredibly laid-back and easygoing baby, with one exception: teething. He is (pardon the expression) a big baby when it comes to teething, which we were not prepared for. Elizabeth had a very easy time with teething, but it is truly a painful struggle for our little guy. When he isn’t fussing about his teeth though, he is all smiles. He’s got two dimples that come out when he’s really laughing and happy. He is going to be quite the handsome fella as he gets bigger, so we’re already steeling ourselves for the broken hearts 🙂

Here’s a more recent picture from our play date last week. Notice the drool-soaked hoodie? It’s his standard attire these days. Hope you’ve enjoyed seeing my little man, and I’ll try to update again soon.

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Friends! Fun! March 27, 2012

Filed under: babies,EJ,flowers,friends,fun,monday monday,pregnancy,work — aarontori @ 8:10 PM

****EDIT**** Aaron accidentally posted this before I was finished writing it. Here’s the entire post:

Two posts in one week, lucky you! Apparently I’ve got the blogging bug.

Yesterday, Elizabeth came to work with me for half of the day. Our center encourages peer interaction and we’ve got two little guys (2 and 3 years old) that come 8:30-12:30 that could really benefit from being around an assertive, very talkative little girl for a few hours. One is a big brother to a 10 month old and the other is an only child.

Elizabeth thinks where I work is the most awesome place ever. We’ve got lots and lots of toys, craft supplies, books, and even a full-sized indoor trampoline! It was a big treat for her to come play. My first client of the day was an older girl so Elizabeth got to hang out with the other therapists and one of the boys for the first two hours, then with me and the other little guy for the second half of the morning.

The three of them had a good time, even playing a couple games of chase. She kept saying, “Friends! Fun!” to Aaron after he picked her back up. The boys seemed to like having her around and my coworkers (one in particular) had a blast with her. I think we’ll be making it a regular thing.

While Elizabeth and I were “working”, Aaron got to have the morning to himself for the first time in a long while. He went to GameStop where he played some video games and spent a gift card that he got for Christmas.

Elizabeth took a nap and then she and Aaron went to Costco to kill time until I got off work. Aaron got her a berry smoothie and they read books and he “named everything in the entire store for her.” When they picked me back up, they surprised me with a bouquet of beautifully colored spring daisies!

It was a good day and I love that I can on occasion, share my work with Elizabeth and get more time together.

Tomorrow we’ve got our weekly checkup with the midwife, so we’ll see if she wants to hazard a guess as to when little Owen will be joining us.

I left the house a little after 7 this morning and got home about 10:30 because of staff training and then childbirth class, so now it is off to bed I go.

 

The Evans Four March 25, 2012

Filed under: babies,celebration,family,holidays,moving,pregnancy,work — aarontori @ 10:09 PM

Hello Friends and Family!

It has been far too long since we posted (as usual) so there is much to tell.

First off, we’ve moved and begun our journey as a CARES Team for Apartment Life! We moved in at the beginning of February with the help of some very awesome friends we were able to get all of our things packed and moved in a single weekend. We found out that we got the CARES position at 5 on Friday and were completely moved and had the duplex empty and clean by 5 on Sunday! A BIG part of it was thanks to the Lehews loaning us their pickup truck and the tireless efforts and rallying cry of our dear friend, Ryan Crowe.

We moved to Copper Crossing, an apartment community on the border between Benbrook and Fort Worth. It’s very conveniently located and we love the staff. They had a CARES team here previously, but it had been about 10 months or so since the other team had left, which means we’re sort of having to start over again. We’ve had small turnouts for our events so far, but got some ideas from our mentor team and will be adapting our approach in April based on their advice/feedback.

It is so nice to be living in our own place again. We’ve been procrastinating on some things, but for the most part Aaron had everything unpacked and put away within the first couple of days.We still need to buy and hang some curtains for the kids’ room, hang our pictures, organize a few things, and decorate. This is supposed to be my area, but I’ve been too tired/lazy at the end of the day to want to do it.

Elizabeth has her own room (for now) and is loving it. When we moved in we just went ahead and converted her crib to a toddler bed and she’s done an awesome job staying in it at night. Now if we could just make the actual process of going to sleep less of a drawn-out battle we’d be set. She’s officially one and a half, which is so hard to believe. She has 12 teeth (and 4 more breaking through at the moment). She talks constantly, loves to yell out whatever it is that she’s doing at the moment (“I’m running! I’m walking! I’m sitting! I sit next to you!”), and has started to sing just a little bit. We’ve been very slowly and inconsistently working on potty training since Christmas, but she’s really gotten on the bandwagon here recently. I think it has a lot to do with the fact that we have a washer and dryer in our apartment now (thanks to Aaron’s parents!) and so we’ve started cloth diapering again. She is going to be the world’s best big sister. She adores her baby brother already and talks to and about him quite a lot. She loves to lift my shirt and give him hugs and kisses.

That brings me to the biggest thing we’ve got going on in our life at the moment: baby watch 2012! We’re expecting our son, Owen Cody Evans, anytime now. We had an ultrasound 3 weeks ago and found out that we’re having a boy. By the doctor’s guess he was about 6 pounds the day of the ultrasound. Elizabeth was only 6 lbs 4 oz when she was born, so it looks like he’s going to be significantly bigger than his sister.

We’ve had our bag packed for the birth center and the carseat installed for a little over a week now. The bassinet is set up in our room, his clothes are ready for him, and now all that’s missing is little baby Owen. His due date is April 5th, but I highly doubt we’re going to have to wait that long.

Stay tuned for the latest news from baby watch 2012!

Here’s a link to our family pictures we had taken last week while we were still just the three musketeers.
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! December 31, 2011

Filed under: babies,celebration,family,friends,fun,holidays,pictures,plans,pregnancy,work — aarontori @ 12:53 PM

Hello friends and family! We hope the year’s end finds you well! It has been a year full of changes and growth for us, and we’d like to share with you how our lives have changed.

We’ve moved away from Happy Hill Farm Academy, where we were resident parents for the girls’ elementary house. We enjoyed our time there, and we’ll miss the friends we made, but we’ve moved on to some exciting prospects.

Elizabeth has grown so much this year, and is now running and talking about everything she sees. Her vocabulary is getting larger by the hour (just this hour she learned “Earth” “Asia” and “Ocean” while we were on a walk looking at a sculpture of the earth, and correctly pointed out “berries” on a nearby bush).  While sometimes unsteady on her feet, she is always going full speed ahead. She has bruised knees and forehead, but rarely cries; she is quick to get up and try again. She can even read a few of her books to you if you ask. She has a way to go on learning not to scream inside or throw food when she is finished, but she has mastered saying “Thank you” and is doing well on learning “Please” and “You’re welcome”. Her most recent adventure is apparently potty training. She has been showing some interest in the potty as of late, and so we went ahead and purchased a potty chair with some Christmas money. Last night she sat on it twice and peed both times! Hard to believe, but this girl is just way ahead of the curve when it comes to just about everything.

Tori is now 26 weeks along into pregnancy number 2. Mom and baby are both very healthy and growing bigger by the moment. Elizabeth absolutely adores the baby (for now) and since she won’t really be able to remember life without a sibling we’re hoping it stays that way come April. We still don’t know if we’re having a boy or girl, but will likely have an ultrasound in January. We’ll keep you posted.

Tori began working at Autism Concepts Inc. as an ABA therapist in October. She is loving being back doing what she trained to do in college and while she is tired at the end of the day, she is excited about the work she did and how the children she is working with are progressing.

Aaron is staying at home with Elizabeth, and loving the opportunity to work on learning words, sounds, numbers, and all sorts of things with her. They go on walks and enjoy looking at (and touching) the sculptures around TCU and listening to people playing in the music school.

Currently we are living just down the street from TCU, and the walk to church is less than 30 seconds. It’s much nicer than the hour long drive we used to have to make! We’re waiting on word from Apartment Life, where we will be moving in to an apartment complex within 10 miles from where we are now, helping them with resident retention, and ministering to the staff and residents.

We are doing well and hope you all are too. Tori finally got around to uploading all of our pictures through Christmas, so enjoy!

May 2011

June 2011- We were terrible and have no pictures from the month of June…oops

July 2011

August 2011

September 2011

Elizabeth’s First Birthday!

October 2011

November 2011

December 2011

 

 
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